Looking Forward

This screen has been sitting open on my computer for hours while I do other things and think about "looking forward".  And I am torn.  There are things that are going to happen this year as I look forward to the future, they are inevitable, and there are things I am looking forward to happening this year.  Yeah, get the difference?

So, the things that are going to happen whether I like it or not include my wonderful daughter being independent and moving out.  A natural course of events, but still makes me sad.....  talented and wonderful and beautiful.....  her, not me.  And my son getting older and growing up.  Honestly, they were babies.....just yesterday! And this means, of course, that my grey hair is not just premature grey, but I, too am getting older.

But what am I looking forward to as the the mist rises on a new year?

 Well, cooking for one.  The "business" year for me is almost over, so I have some time to read and cook.











And then, since January is pretty slow, I am will be testing new fragrances and scent blends for my soaps.   I will be testing new oils for the soaps, too.  After reading much about palm oil and the devastation of the ecosystem by palm plantations, I want to stop using palm oil in my products.

Gardening is always up there on my list of things I look forward to. Being with my sweet husband and helping him.

 Hanging out with the animals, even when they don't want to hang out with each other.

 And continuing my running.  Each time I have run a 5K, I do better.  I am more a basset hound than a grey hound, but I still enjoy it.

A pretty simple life.  Right now, making chili and listening to the owls outside the window.....looking forward to supper and being with my family.

Peace on earth would be nice, acceptance and non judgement would be, too.

But, I just do what I can in my own little world.....maybe joining the citizen protest of the dumping of wastewater in the creek over our local aquifer............  hmmmm.......














So, now let us see what our other bloggers are looking forward to:

Andes Cruz: https://andescruz.wordpress.com/2015/12/20/forward/

marie bell :: http://www.pencilfox.com/2015/12/december-blog-o-sphere-think-tank.html

Kathleen Krucoff ~ https://mysticalmythicalmetalwork.wordpress.com/2015/12/20/what-i-am-looking-forward-to/

Beth Cyr - http://www.bethcyr.com/blog/

Reflections on a trip

A call came from my brother.  I almost could not understand him.  His wife of almost 40 years had died.  All their kids would be there, and my sister from Alaska was flying in.  I made plans to finish works in progress and go to Illinois.  I promised him I would be there for the saying of the rosary  on Friday night.  So, Friday morning, I started my journey, both actual and metaphorical.  825 miles.  Seems like a lot of miles to drive, but sometimes the journey back to where I was raised is even further.

Thirteen hours from when I started, I was in Illinois, hugging my niece and nephews, my brother and sister.  Family friends.  Rosary was said and we convened to the old farmhouse to eat.  Much of our lives there were lived around meals, it seems.  Weddings and funerals, holidays and regular days, all reasons to eat good food.  

The grave was opened and closed by her children and their spouses.  From my father to his son's children, we have dug and filled graves.  And this one was no exception, although a sadder task by far.  A funeral with tears and stories, prayers and the scent of flowers.  Then the meal (again), this time made by the women of the local church.  Food for the body and soul.    

Late night drives back to the motel, across the river, my mind as blurry as the pictures I took.  Early morning breakfasts with my sister and her husband.  Not much sleep to be had, and even when I was in my bed, my mind was too busy to sleep.  Listening and talking, sharing histories, sorting memories.  Rebuilding bridges.  Hoping forgiveness was found for all my faults and hurts that I may have caused.  

Then it was time to go again, back to Texas, to my little farm house and home to my husband and children.  Foggy morning, giving way to skittering leaves with the passing vehicles and roadside hawks watching my passage.

wydwyd

so, I thought a lot about this.....why do I do what I do
and it ran around my brain for a long time
because I am too much in my head sometimes

I talked it over with my husband
who said that is a difficult thing to determine
one is so much more than a single photo

and I talked it over with my sister-friend

and what DO I do
what takes up my time
what give me pleasure
what am I compelled to do
what is a service
what do I do out of love

I mean, I am a wife, a mother
a soapmaker by profession now
a pet owner, a friend
manager of the farmers market
homeschool teacher
volunteer in the community

so why I do some of the things I do
I cannot even put into words

I chose this part of my life
it is not the whole
but one thing I could photograph









Now, lets see why others do what they do:

Andes Cruz: https://andescruz.wordpress.com/2015/10/20/wdydwyd/

angelojones :: http://www.pencilfox.com/2015/10/wdydwyd-october-blog-o-sphere-think-tank.html

Kathleen Krucoff:  http://wp.me/pA5jX-Mf

Possibilities for the Future

foam in brushy creek, williamson co, texas

There are moments when I read of tragedies, or political travesties or legal loopholes that shouldn't exist, and I think the world is not a great place.  I see an advertisement for a local vendor who makes a grill seasoning with an objectionable name (one I don't want my 8 yo to read).  My son goes to a kids movie and reports back he didn't like it because of all the "potty" humor.  And I sigh......  our society has lost something. We have lost our respect for ourselves, for the language, for fellow human beings.  For being polite, for letting our children be kids, for taking care of humanity.  Here in Texas, big business comes first over the environment and the people.  Its all roiling around in my head together....the problems of our society and how our children are growing up in it.







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However, as I was thinking about all this, and how I feel like an alien (like an outer space alien, not a "from across the border" alien) in this society, I had a moment, well, actually several hours with a group of teens that made me feel a thousand times better.

You see, my daughter, who we have homeschooled all the way through high school, graduated.  We had a ceremony and dance with her friends.  Now, normally, when one would think of a teen dance as an adult, one would cringe and think all kinds of things might be happening.  However, with this group, it was dancing and eating and laughing and talking.  I talked with many of them about their passions (music, IT stuff, video gaming) and their hopes for the future.  What they want to do and accomplish.  I talked fishing with a young man I have known since he was 2.  He is now 16 and has a girlfriend who loves to fish.  He wants to be a nurse.  His brother wants to work in aquatic biology.  I listened to a young woman who wants to start her own band.  I talked guitars and what music store is the best with several others.  These kids are funny and energetic and smart and have dreams.  They look you in the eye when they talk and are not afraid to have opinions.  It renewed my faith in where the world is going.  I would love to post pictures of these amazing teens, but I respect their privacy.

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And then personally....... the future for me......Getting ready to school my son for the year.  Getting ready for a big show in September.  Getting ready for a 5K in November.  That may not sound like much to some, merely 3 miles, but to me it is BIG. I may be last, but at least I am out there doing it!  And the running a business and homeschooling and loving my family......That is my future...... And maybe I should take a lesson from Kat life. Simplicity, a ball and a box makes his life....and even better....a ball IN a box

Kitkat living the dream

And now, lets see what others are saying:

Andes Cruz: https://andescruz.wordpress.com/2015/08/20/envisionblogosphere/

angelojones: http://www.pencilfox.com/2015/08/the-future-august-blog-o-sphere-think.html

Kathleen Krucoff: http://wp.me/pA5jX-KX

Tosca Teran: http://nanopod.me/2015/08/20/possibilities-future-blog-o-sphere

Diana Bell:  http://bellsprings.blogspot.com/2015/08/possibilities-for-future.html